Aside from my educational / career background, I think they suggest this because they can feel that I genuinely care.
Everyone should have the opportunity to experience sexual independence and sexual liberation.
I know what it’s like to be sexually oppressed and since my own awakening, it pains me to see others in that same position.
If there is one stand-out suggestion I’ve consistently received from my clients over the past 7 years, it’s that I should go into some kind of sexual therapy.
What do I mean by sexual independence and sexual liberation?
❤ Feeling as though you can speak freely about your sexual wants and desires without fear of repercussion
❤ Shedding internalised negative feelings toward sex
❤ Understanding consent, boundaries, possible health implications - ie. sex education basics.
What do I mean by sexual oppression?
❤ Feeling sexually unfulfilled or unable to access sexual opportunities that are available to others
❤ Experiencing inner turmoil surrounding sex
❤ Feeling unable to vocalise wants and desires to partners
I hold a deep belief that everyone should:
❤ Have access to sexual opportunity
❤ Have access to sexual education
❤ Understand how their body works and what they desire
❤ Not harbour turmoil surrounding their sexual desires
❤ & perhaps most importantly - feel able to voice their consent, concerns, needs and desires -
without fear of repercussion.
If any of these sound like you - feel free to get in touch
You would not believe:
how many men over 50 I’ve taught to put on condoms
how many submissive women I’ve seen shocked when told that you should never be punished for using a safe word
how many people book me - a sex worker! - then still struggle to vocalise what they want.
Fact of the matter is though, the majority of people are not given opportunity to access the information they need and if you’ve never even been offered access - how could you know it’s their to find?
Sex is rife with deeply ingrained societal issues that then trickle down into having a negative impact on people’s personal lives and relationships - from known, debated issues such as a lack of sex education (especially surrounding consent) to problems that are more targeted, such as the many accessibility issues disabled people face when trying to access sexual services.
These are then further reinforced when the subject topic itself is seen as taboo by wider society.
How do you find a kink friendly therapist?
How do you ask your carer to call a sex worker for you?
When even taking the first step of vocalising your ideas can be so socially risky, how are we supposed to feel free?
